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Why is being told to ‘man up’ dangerous?

We’re slowly improving the conversation around mental health, but there’s one phrase we need to ban: man up. Writer Michael Handrick spoke to CALM to find out why being told to ‘man up’ is so dangerous to hear, and how there is no one way to be a man

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men's mental health

By Michael Handrick

Updated on 08-Nov-2017

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