Manage your partners expectations

I think a lot of people rely too much on their partner being able to tell when they are uncomfortable. Sexual consent needs to be an ongoing discussion in your relationship, particularly if you have a different experience level than your partner.

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I had a ex-boyfriend a few years ago who was more experienced than I was. He knew this, but we never really talked about it specifically, or how it might affect our relationship. I wasn't interested in having sex, but instead of saying that I would just move his hand away if I didn't like where things were heading. While this gets my point across, I think that it is better to just blatantly say, "This is what I'm comfortable doing sexually, this is what I don't want to do". If I had done this, my ex-boyfriend would've had more realistic expectations about what we could and couldn't do sexually. Because I wasn't upfront, he would get really frustrated and actually broke up with me because he heard from someone else that I didn't want to have sex with him. HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY!

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